I REACT, NOT COMPOSED - COCKROACH THEORY by Sundar Pichai

Cockroach Theory 

A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus and Global Head Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.
Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..
He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

Were You Born To Lead or To Follow ?

With My Love & Life ^KanchiniSekaran^

I do come across meeting up many people, particularly people from the corporate world. I observed few elements along my journey and it is interesting to know that there are many leaders out there.


Sadly, not many leaders have effective skills as they are bound to Follow instead of taking the Lead. Now, to define Lead is something more than giving someone an order, or pointing finger, or isn't just bossing people around. It is more than this !


To Lead, it demands a lot of responsibilities, dedication, managing the team well, and top of all is staff engagement or I would spelled it as understanding. 


Many leaders fail to understand that workplace engagement do plays a major role in resulting excellent output/results by keeping the employees happy. Sometimes, dollar & cents is not the issue. It backs to understanding each and other. I mean management-staff relationship. When such environment takes place, clearly shows the Leader were born to Follow and not To Lead. 


Follow, as in getting instructions and redirecting the instruction to the employees, which every Tom, Dick & Harry could practice that. I don't have to work for years to be there, probably, 1 week training will do.!


Get down, hands on, manage, communicate, troubleshoot together, investigate, identify, resolving issues, seek for solution, and all the mentioned above is related to staff welfare not work pertaining issues.


Leaders are meant to keep the team happy and the team's duty is to resolved the jobs problem/issues. Now if the team is Not well taken care, the Leader's will need to do the staff's job. So, now I see the point why there are so many inefficient leaders around claiming that they have a lot of works to do. When they actually don't have to.


Leadership abilities comes naturally to some, but for many, it has to be Honed and Developed. I truly understand that Leaders are Made not Born! Leadership skills are acquired  over a period of time based on several factors:


Seven Leadership Skills:

1. Leaders come in all different shapes and sizes. It is interesting to study effective leaders. At face value they are all different. They all have developed their own style based on their own personality and what works for them. 

2. A true leader accepts responsibility. Everything from how they speak to how they act is part of being responsible. It is easy to follow them because you know where they are going and know they will lead you as well. 

3. Leaders work at being leaders. They are always improving their skills and learning from the situations they are in. They study people and have learned how to effectively interact with them to get what they want. 

4. Leadership starts at the top, but is best achieved when developing a team atmosphere. Leaders know they can do better when people are working together for one common goal. Sharing in leadership is part of this process. Making everyone accountable for what they do, but judging success on the overall efforts of everyone. 

5. Situations call for different types of leadership. A well-rounded leader is able to adapt to their surroundings and lead accordingly. Coaching a football team is an example of this. Sometimes the players need a kick in the rear and other times they need a pat on the back. 

6. Leaders are respected for what they have accomplished in the past. A real leader can speak from a position of practical experience and know they will be listened to because they speak from that vantage point. A respected leader is able to command more from his people than a leader who is not. 

7. Leaders seek opinions and compile ideas before forming a game plan. Good leaders know that they cannot come up with every idea that will work. By allowing input they are able to make a more responsible decision. 

Highlighted in blue, is my strong points for leadership. 

We all know from the beginning, the days when the Great Mohandas Gandhi quoted " I suppose leadership at one time meant Muscles; but today it means getting along with people" 

That's all for today....Cheers to all Leaders and future leaders.

To Help or To Spoil Children ~ Parenting 2011

Parenting has always been topics in recent years, looking at the figures of more children were spoiled than helped in a family.  In fact, many parents are out of control, allowing the kids to manipulate and take charge of the situation, simply by falling into the unreasonable sympathy shown by the kids. I would prefer to raise my kids to be more self reliant, independent, and self sustaining.

I am not a BIG FAN of parents who put the blame on the children for their slow progressive, non productive, spoiled lifestyle and dependent children. Why?

The reason is YOU, as YOU mean PARENTS. Now here are some of the Etiologies (the study of causation/origination):-

1. Failure of parents  to enforce consistent & appropriate-age limit freedom

      2. Parents shielding the child from normal everyday frustrations.

      3. Provision of excessive material gifts, even when the child has not behaved properly

      4. Improper role models provided by parents.

The etiologies, shows the SPOILED CHILD SYNDROME has been increasingly noticed in the population and many never realized the impact that causes to the community indirectly. In fact these kids will have a tough future and the future has been decided and molded by YOU for not restricting certain things based on their age limit. I realized one more thing is that, parents were more concern to have the kids cater their needs 

more than preparing them to face the real world.

It is very sad to look at some parents who have got no control of their children’s attitude and lifestyle. Watching them coming back home late at night when they are suppose to study/sleep. Watching them demand for things and living in their own world, pretty much ego-centric I would say.  

If these are not corrected now, then the funny world out there awaits for these spoiled brats so that others could fool them and benefit out of them.

I am not here to say to HATE your kids. Then again, how can you allow your kids to take charge of the situation and please them with all the materials /provision in the world not letting them feel what YOU as a parents going through to earn for living. 

I would say this to conclude my short article,“Never underestimate a parent's ability to mortify his child.” 

With Love,

Prakash Naidu 

PEOPLE with ATTITUDE

It annoys a person so much, especially when you have human with ghastly attitude. Ghastly attitude referred to a person who naturally been brought up (screwed up background) with intensely unpleasant character that irritates not only their circle of friends but also the society.

Now having few people on my mind, listing the names will not going to help me either. I’m truly blessed to have such people around me to keep me entertained and my blog for sure not going to be boring since these people filled with an awful attitude allows others to learn from it.  

Family background do plays an important role in shaping a person personality and attitude. Sometimes it is sad to see some people from a broken family without proper guidance having complexity adapting the social life where most of the time they will get involve into troubles. That doesn’t mean people not from a broken family do not have terrible attitude. Studies have indicated that some people from a broken family do have the traits of having awful attitude due to the insecure, wobbly, unsteady, changeable and erratic state of mind.

This kind of people are very racist, temperamental, rude, hostile, unpredictable, untrustworthy, risky and most of all seeking for an ‘ATTENTION’. It is easy to identify such people since their movement very much noticeable. This awful people will seek for attention, attempt to gain sympathy. (eeeuuuyyyyucks to even look at them at times).

It is hard to mingle around with those unpredictable people as they have the tendency to be in mood swing. On top of that, this people are very selfish and rude, thinking that they are the best.

‘Respect’ is far way out of their mind, not knowing how to have a good PR (Public Relation), even if they do know what it means, I’m pretty sure they do not know how it supposed to be applied in their daily life. Being ruthless to others, is the other way those attitude people trying to seek attention from others. They tend to be finicky when they need something to be done for their own benefits, otherwise mean.

 It is sad to see those people having such an awful attitude living life as it is thinking that is normal. It is miserable to watch them feeling so insecure, always recruit others to tag along with them and be beside them all the time. The fear of losing friends and close love ones constantly cling in their mind. Due to that insecure mental state and feelings, they tend to poison others or I would say influence others surrounding them with negative remarks. Nothing from their mouth echo good words, it always causes others to get hurt. Eventually this type of people will have very small group of friends who willing to listen to their grandfather’s stories. Some people call them ‘Tin Kosong”

If the message written on the walls is clear enough, I’m sure there will be changes otherwise; I will be expecting clown in action entertaining me from time to time.

Till then….

 One, Two, Three, Roll the Camera and Aaaactionnnnnn…….

 

When Money Needs Time and Begged for Quality Life

Living in this fast pace world, we probably do not know the purpose of our own existence. It has been years that we are living for the same common purposes. It all started when we attend pre-school, primary school, high school, college, university then fall into a job.  It sounds like the LIFE is taking us a RIDE. Now the question is, are we in control or we are controlling our own life?

During learning days in school, everyone will get the same old question, what will you be when you grow up? Or what is your ambition? The same old answers were given either doctor or engineer.  Looking at all this, none of us understand the needs of the future for each individual. Nor our parents or the society should decide what we should be when we grow up.

Teachers are trained to teach students on their subjects. Parents are trained to educate us to be a better person with the right character, but, is there anyone to guide us or let us know, what it takes to be a successful human being?  I refer successful being WEALTHY not RICH.

All these years, we were told to study very hard, so that we would have a bright future and have an easy life. I do agree with the statement ‘bright future’ but not ‘easy life’. 

If we look at our lifestyle right now, there are two major factors contributing to QUALITY LIFESTYLE, its TIME & MONEY. Was there any topic on TIME & MONEY during our days in school? I bet till date, no one has spoken this agenda in school to actually prepare the adolescent to face the current fast pace world.  Of course, time isn't free. It is the least free of all assets. It is non-renewable. Once spent, it's gone forever. Yet it's the form in which we want to take a great deal of our potential income from time.

If it was taught in school, I am sure the numbers of jobless and ignorant people out there will be reduced. Not only that, we will create more knowledgeable people in the country to understand the world’s inflation and its effect towards socio economics.

Let’s look in the profession Project Management point of view, the goal is to have the project finish on time, within the budget and of course be quality. The same goals can be applied to life; everybody would like to make best use of their time, their money, and their quality of life. With your money, you would rather not have it spent on frivolous things. And if you do put your time and money towards anything it better be at least rewarding.

The reason, I, wrote on this topic is because not many people understand and even if they do, most of them are ignorant. Most people fail to understand on the number years they have and time needed to be settled. Remember! We only have approximately 7 to 8 of ten years in one life cycle, where half  the number of ten years gone while studying and looking for a right career. How ignorant can a person be when it is too late to realize as the years never look back and human do not stop ageing.

Benjamin Franklin wrote this in a letter to a young man over 250 years ago. It works both ways: money can buy you time, which is why we pay physicians and pharmaceutical companies after we have heart attacks. We can trade one for the other. But we can buy more money with time than we can buy time with money. The system is asymmetrical. There are people who are worth a billion dollars. No one I know is going to live 300 years unless a major breakthrough in medicine takes place. (If it does, Social Security's "trust fund" will take another hit.)

It’s time for us to educate and guide our younger generation to have quality life perhaps balance with TIME & MONEY.

Baby Reesheka Kaur Says.....

The month of March 2011, had the most beautiful compilation of amazing moments. The month, I celebrate, my wife's birthday, the month where we got registered/engage and one amazing soul brought to the world.

Reesheka Kaur, that's what we called her.......

Let me put myself into her shoes and tell a little bit of her stories....& here we go...

I swim, I float, I move, I play and its like a marathon for the past 9 months. Then finally, I crossed the finishing line on the 21st March 2011.

 I remember watching a man and a  lady feeling so excited for me, then I realize there are my parents. My concern at that time was to get more rest since I was floating all the time and now they want me to breathe the air but not liquid.

 So I kept myself silent and cries sometimes, to let my parents know that I'm there with them. Honestly, it is not easy to be an INFANT. Being a newborn for few hours causing me lot of problem.

Firstly, they don't get what I say ( crying), Secondly, I was forced to drink when I not hungry, Thirdly, there were too many people around me, I felt stuffy. I need some break after my long journey, can't these people understand me. Damn....they couldn't understand my language...I don't blame them....

 Well now, months passed by and I 'm almost 1 year's old. There are a lot of changes, I started to understand some sign language my mom and dad always  play with. I recognizes my own name.....I crawled, I started to walk....

 I like the when people buy me toys, colorful ones, dresses and I'm obsessed for hand bags.

 I remember these two couples, whom my dad & mom always with..I guess so called Bestie Friendie.

If I'm not mistaken thats Uncle Prakash & Aunty Kanchini. Pretty annoying thou seeing them quite often and my parents away with them often as well..Come on..of course I will get jealous....

Anyway its's ok, Uncle Prakash & Aunty Kanchini not that bad, coz they buy me stuff...like a lot of stuff....I have Patrick(the teddy bear) for me to hug & sleep, some weird toys and I remember Uncle Prakash mentioning that he will buy some kinda huge play ground thingy for me....Well lets wait and see....

I envy Aunty Kanchini very much, she has got some gorgeous handbags...I love the GUESS purple handbag...I tried to get into the bag one day, but failed coz my mom Ms.Karenjit Kaur spank me from the back...

I heard Uncle Prakash bought a new handbag for Aunty Kanchini...I hope the bag will land to my hand one day. Anybody knows the brand..??? Coz I heard from my daddy, Mr. Hayma Kumar it was a 'COACH' handbag.

I shall use my charm to get a handbag from Uncle Prakash one day...I know he loves me alot and I'm sure he will get me one....Not much...maybe for my first day of my school....

That's all for now peeps....21st March 2012 coming soon...Do not forget my Birthday people....

Love,

Baby Reesheka Kaur via Uncle's Prakash & Aunty Kanchini's Blog

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Bestie Friend

Kumar & Karen - I dedicate this small little stories on behalf of Reesheka....One day she also wanna know what all happen... So there is something for her to laugh one fine day....atleast she will be thinking how dumb Uncle Prakash is....the Aunty Kanchini will get all the attention.....

Engagement at Your Workplace - Part 2

Hey...I'm back again to end the journey I've started. Well again we are speaking regarding the engagement of ourselves towards our job but this time, I am about to explain the points quoted in my PART 1 of the blog...

Let us go through again the areas to cover for today......

          1. Using Emotional Intelligence
          2. Building Relationship
          3. Communication
          4. Connection to Customers
          5. Recognition
          6. Freedom to Act
          7. Developing Individuals & Teams


1. Using Emotional Intelligence


   In this area, we are at the start of the 'emotion economy' era in which great leaders started to make their organization more effective and profitable by tapping the emotions of their employees and their own.  We all know that human brains unlike computers at our workplace, inputing, processing the information and make logic based decision. The fact is human beings in the workplace are emotional first and rational second. Based on Daniel Goleman, his book back in year 1995, Emotional Intelligence define that engagement of employees towards their respective job as well as the engagement of the managers/leaders towards their team members could directly affect the quality of production and services. It is because human are touched with emotion than intellect.
   In the field where quality of service  matters the most, engagement indirectly have neurological effect towards emotion and indirectly improve the needs of the organization business. To most companies, we call this as 'soft skills'
   Based on the world's research company Gallup Organization, who interview 10 million customers and 300,000 organization around the world . They manage to discover that there were links between employee opinions and attitude and business performance. 
   Question ourselves. "What conditions attract and keep top employees?" and "What attract and keeps loyal, profitable customers?"


2. Building Relationship


   Great managers maintain strong, caring relationships with everyone on their teams. That’s a variance from the old approach, from the days when people believed everything in business had to be rational, and a manager would try to make employees see things management’s way. Today, great managers  onsider employees’ views and ideas. They discuss employees problems honestly and help them see possibilities. They provide constructive direction. 


3. Communication


   Building true relationships requires true communication, the second of the six strategies. Coffman suggests great managers clearly define and consistently communicate goals and objectives. They also know that, in communication, one size does not fit all. Furthermore, they also do something poor managers don’t – they ask questions and they listen to the answers. 
  Communication consultant and author Roger D’Aprix suggests that every manager must answer these six employee questions to keep them motivated.


          1. What’s my job?
          2. How am I doing?
          3. Does anyone care?
          4. How’s my unit doing?
          5. Where are we heading?
          6. How can I help?
   Think about your own organization. Are you answering those questions for your employees? Is someone answering them for you? Knowing the answers to those questions keeps us all engaged in our work. 


4. Connection to Customers


   The Gallup Organization discovered that engaged employees are highly likely to produce engaged customers. Great managers show employees how to develop connection to customers. They know what Gallup discovered, that satisfying needs and providing superior products are important, but customers form their opinions of a company based on how they’re treated. 
   Great managers help their teams see the many connections each employee has to the organizations’ customers and the chain reaction those connections create. They set high standards for customer care and embody them in their own style. They help employees see that there’s a point to what they are doing – and that customers recognize and benefit from that. 


5. Recognition


   Great managers also recognize the contribution of their employees in ways that are meaningful
to each individual. I once worked for a bank that had VIP reward cards managers could hand out to people who had done something particularly well. They were attached to air travel miles, so their value was more than symbolic. In talking with my group about the program,
   I discovered that it would have more value to them if, rather than getting these VIP cards from me, they could earn the right to give them to other people in the organization who had helped them out in projects. For my team, the freedom to give someone outside our department a reward card was more rewarding than receiving one.


6. Freedom to Act


   The fourth strategy for engagement, and one of the most powerful, is granting employees freedom to act. Excellent managers don’t “micromanage,” an unfortunate management style prevalent in less-than-great organizations. 
   Great managers define the desired outcomes, set a good example, and get out of the way, letting their employees use their innate talents and learned skills and knowledge to reach the goal. 
   If we return to my group at the bank, our job was to write the volumes of policies and 
procedures for an organization of more than 50 thousand employees. These were in 26 fat blue binders and, organization-wide, took up acres of real estate. But the policy we developed for our department was one short sentence: “Know your customer and do what you think is best.” Our dream was to help make that the policy for the whole bank.


7. Developing Individuals and Teams


   You can’t even dream of a policy like that unless your organization develops its individuals and teams, the sixth strategy for engagement. One of the best ways to do that is to work with people to help them recognize and develop their strengths. Then you give them jobs that use those strengths in service to their customers. 
   You don’t need to be very smart to recognize that people like doing what they’re good at. When 
people love what they’re doing, they do it better. When that happens, competence meets confidence – and customers notice that something special is happening. When tasks are assigned based on people’s innate strengths, rather than the narrow confines of their job descriptions, it can pay off in a better customer experience, leading to customer loyalty and increased profitability.




Why all these matters to everyone is because..........Employing these rules of engagement costs you and your company nothing, in terms of cold, hard cash. It requires only concern, mindfulness, respect for everyone, and caring communication. 


It can make your organization great. If it also makes your CEO rich, so be it


Taadaaaaa....thats all I have for Engagement at Workplace courtesy of the articles written by Ms Sue Johnston. It has been an amazing moments reading her article and enhance my management of people at my workplace.


****Sue Jonhston is Head Coach at It’s Understood Communication, a consultancy specializing in workplace communication. Her areas of research and consulting are employee engagement and emotional intelligence – and the communication that underlies both. 


She can be reached at : sue@itsunderstood.com.

Engagement at Your Workplace - Part 1

Hi everyone, I'm back after a long period of craziness. Juggling time is one madness and the amount of commitment keep on increasing each day as we aged tremendously affecting our daily life. Nevertheless, I manage to discover a lot of things, experiencing the odds and even of life, this time it is related to most of our work place.

Have you ever wonder, how many person / staff do really engaged to their own work. Let's say, if there are 10 people on the job, how many people are actually working?

Well, we're not just talking about Kuala Lumpur city postman or even McDonald delivery man on rainy day. In Sue Johnston articles, she mentioned that only 20%  of employees are truly engaged to their work. Which means 8 out of 10 people are not. Well, those people show up to work, look like they are working hard but the fact is they are not fully committed. After certain period of time these type of employees will not be able to cope with the job and will take the next step that is skipping to other job.

Therefore it is important for an employee to get themselves engage into what they are doing so that they will feel worthwhile working, work with enthusiasm and passion to their work.

The fundamental or I would call it the basic core of this is 'EMOTION', likewise been quoted in Ms Sue Johnston article.

Most of the organization or employers fail to understand the fundamental of the organization success / greatness lies in using what you already have. I am referring to the work force/manpower or shall we consider it as 'STAFF' . Most leaders main concern is to achieve the companies objective or target within the time frame given and what makes the leader a failure is not to understand the emotion of the skillful and dedicated employee.

These are the areas where a leader or future leader in any organization should learn:

          1. Using Emotional Intelligence
          2. Building Relationship
          3. Communication
          4. Connection to Customers
          5. Recognition
          6. Freedom to Act
          7. Developing Individuals & Teams

I believe when the leader able to learn the Rule of Engagement, the employees will improve their productivity and directly will improve the service quality.

Well I guess, this far is the journey for today and in the next blog (Part 2), I will explain more in details on each of the following 7 areas that I have mentioned.

Till then......Have a good time......

Prakash Naidu signing off for today

If Success Is A Game, These Are The Rules..

To start with, many years ago, reading is not my cup of coffee or I would rather say 'yucksss'. Nothing bothers me when it comes to books as I see that only as a piece of paper that people write and I read, then I sleep.

It all change when, there is this man whom I met presented me a book and told me," You have got to start somewhere, if it is not NOW maybe when you in the late 40's but I guess your too fragile then at that age".

I kept on asking myself, what is that man trying to say?  and I am only bloody 15 years old. damn it"  The book was kept beautifully in the shelves like how I kept the rest of my books. As months passed by and the book is getting golden in color and remain untouched.

One fine day, I met the same man again and this time he gave his hands for a manly handshake, whispered to my ears saying " Young man, I bet you have not read the book I've given you, I don't see any changes in you. So you have decided to be like this forever or let the time takes its slow ride to make you realize your own potential ? He gave me that smile, a very sinistic gesture.

Like always, I ignore such weird person but each time I passed by the shelves, something keeps on telling me to open the cover of the book at least and peep whats inside the SO CALLED book that the man dying wanting me to read.

After one year the book was kept hidden on the shelves, I decided to pick it and wipe the dust off the book cover. I read the title on the cover and it sound like this " If Success Is a Game, These Are The Rules" by Cherie Carter Scott, PhD. It took me almost 3 months to complete the whole book consisting of only 212 pages. Biggest ever achievement in my entire lifetime to complete something I would rather die doing.

Now the amazing part was, during the reading process, the first 14 pages took me 2 months to digest until one day, I decided to read the following page ( at page 15), the topic suddenly struck my mind and feelings all together. It sounded like this " Rule Two - Wanting Success Is The First Step Toward Attaining It" and there is a line from the topic that really made me to start thinking, it was this line:

  " Success is a process that begins from within. It starts as a glimmer of hope, then evolves into a thought that plants a seed of promise inside your soul. It is a journey whose initial step is paved with an inner stirring. Whatever your dream may be, the dream needs to be activated into a desire before you can make it happen. In other words, first you need to actively want success if you ever hope to attain it." ( Page 15)

What amused me is that, all this while I was dreaming but I did not make any action towards my goal thinking that,  it will come when it supposed to. Then, I continued reading till I completed the whole book within 3 - 4 weeks despite juggling my time for Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia examination back in year 2002.

I believe today, I'm groomed and be able to meet all types of people from different level / phase of life without having the 'Fear Factor'   strictly adhering to the principles that I personally created   'Be , Know , Do' all the time.

Criticism is part and parcel of life, without it, you will not know where you stand?, how to improve? and I take criticism as a personal challenge. Always favour the word Lesson instead of Failure.  One valuable lesson we all should understand, age is not a barrier or shall not be a wall to attain your dreams.

Doesn't really matter, what subject you study or mastered in? or , what job you are doing? or, which department you handle?,or which language your're good in? because the main concern here is,

are you doing it with full commitment.? or..
are expecting in return for your good deeds? or..
are you doing it for your own satisfaction or just to complete the task?

One good example, lets have a look at our very own former Prime Minister Tun Dr Mahathir bin Mohamad, was the fourth Prime Minister of Malaysia and the longest serving P.M (22 years). He is a qualified doctor by profession yet he still get involve into politics and tremendously given such a fantastic impact to our country developement. Which means, you do not have to study Economics, or Political Science or MBA to be a leader, all you need is a dream together with an action to attain your success.

Even at this bary time, I am proud with my achievements, achieving all the tiny bits of goals in short term plans and now I'm looking at it in a bigger picture, bigger goal have been achieved. I have plenty more goals to attain and I believe it is only the matter of time and luck. I'm blessed with wonderful people around me from my family especially my parents & kanchini,to my siblings and not to forget my working collegues and best friends.

I'm proud to be a Banker for a leading bank in Malaysia and I personally have achieved my parents dream to complete my education to obtain BSc Biomedicine and also Postgraduate in Medical Ultrasonography. Now its my turn to seek for my own goals.

For now...this is all I have to share with you guys.

Remember this;  "There is no education like adversity"

Regards,
Prakash Naidu

Gossip Bird - The Lady Who Gossip

"There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it ill behaves any of us to find fault with the rest of us. " Quoted by James Truslow Adams

I want all of you who are reading this blog to ask the following questions to yourselves. How many times in a day do you gossip about someone? Did you ever complained about your colleagues or workplace on Facebook (directly or indirectly)? Was it fun during the gossiping session?

During my one hour meal break at work, all I could do was complain while stuffing food in my mouth. As I was complaining about something, someone’s name came up and I end up gossiping about that person. Guess what! I enjoyed doing that. As I was in the lift after my break all I could think was ‘Damn Bloody Hell, I Suck’.

The next few hours, I was just hoping and praying that the person I gossiped with would not tell anyone what I have told. This is when I got sudden enlightenment and I came up with an equation.

Gossip + Judgemental = Anxiety and Stress (Followed by migraine and stomach ache) =Possible Trouble in Future

It is not only me but many of us gossip and this could be done by us unknowingly. The most surprising thing is that, some us even gossip or being judgemental on Facebook status thinking that it is cool. This includes complaining about workplace or our colleagues. I have read a post by someone that mentioned her company is racist since they hire people from a certain ethnic background more than people from her race. I mean how stupid are you to post something like that when your colleague may read this.

Siapa makan Cili, dia rasa pedas (I can feel the heat myself J being honest here!!).

 Trust me, it’s not cool at all when your boss give you a dismissal letter and a possible kick in you’re a** when he reads your post.

After much analysis and research, I came to a very simple conclusion where everybody knows but ignores it : Talking about someone when he or she is not present ain’t awesome and it can 'Belakang Api (please translate in English J)' you. Beware!!

This message is brought to you by Kanchini (Ding Dong)..

Our 1st year Anniversary- 5th Dec 2010- Love, Love and All Love

Surprise surprise!! Guess whose blogging.. Its the great Kanchini!... By now, most of you would know how me and Prakash got together.. Please allow me to pen down a little bit bout my soul and my anniversary and all of you are welcomed to drop a comment.

On the 5th of December 2009 is the first time I met Prakash after so many years. I was like 'DAMN, HE'S HOT' when I saw him. It has now been exactly one year since I say those sentence and I wouldn't change even one letter today.

As to celebrate our anniversary, my darling took me out to The Curve, the same place for our first date. Since, the choice of restaurant was left to me, I chose Italiannese. He had Sangria and I had white wine. Main course was delicious pizza with a unpronounceable Italian name (It was with chicken, green pepper and some other stuff). I felt for a moment like an Italian actress out on a romantic date. We both had the chance to walk down the memory lane and not to mention laughed a lot.

We than walked to Ikano and I got my gift, two pairs of shoes (Girls, don't be jealous :)). All of a sudden, Prakash was just to excited with Cold Storage (I have no idea why) and we ended up buying a tub of chocolate ice-cream for supper. We walked around at Curve a bit, looked at engagement rings and just chillex at Starbucks for a bit.

And that's just not the end yet. We than hit back to Subang Parade Parkson to get perfumes courtesy of my parents. We each got our CK but we were even more excited with the extra gift we got which was tiny balls of magnets that can be structured in different shapes. I shall ask Prakash to post picture of it for you guys to get the idea as why were excited and not think that we are insane :).

At this moment, we are at home enjoying our ice-creams and watching movies and all I can think is that I am the luckiest gal to be with the most amazing guy. Well, yes we do have have fights (FYI, I always punch him and he always lose) and arguments but that is part and parcel of our lives. We believe being there for each other, discussing, understand each others moods, arguments, no barriers and making jokes keeps us together. Not forgetting you have to make a fool out of yourself sometimes as well. I did a Tai-chi + wu chu acrobat at 3 am in the morning for no reason. He sings the girl version of a song (sounds gay by the way) sometimes or dances in the car (you will be surprised).

For all couples out there, I am no professional PHD holder in love but I do know I am in love and what I have just wrote above is a secret for true love.

As for you my darling soulmate, Prakash, without you I would be simply lost. Thank you for for all the amazing moments.

As quoted by William Shakespeare;

Doubt thou the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love.

 -KANCHINI-