I REACT, NOT COMPOSED - COCKROACH THEORY by Sundar Pichai

Cockroach Theory 

A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus and Global Head Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.
Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..
He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

Were You Born To Lead or To Follow ?

With My Love & Life ^KanchiniSekaran^

I do come across meeting up many people, particularly people from the corporate world. I observed few elements along my journey and it is interesting to know that there are many leaders out there.


Sadly, not many leaders have effective skills as they are bound to Follow instead of taking the Lead. Now, to define Lead is something more than giving someone an order, or pointing finger, or isn't just bossing people around. It is more than this !


To Lead, it demands a lot of responsibilities, dedication, managing the team well, and top of all is staff engagement or I would spelled it as understanding. 


Many leaders fail to understand that workplace engagement do plays a major role in resulting excellent output/results by keeping the employees happy. Sometimes, dollar & cents is not the issue. It backs to understanding each and other. I mean management-staff relationship. When such environment takes place, clearly shows the Leader were born to Follow and not To Lead. 


Follow, as in getting instructions and redirecting the instruction to the employees, which every Tom, Dick & Harry could practice that. I don't have to work for years to be there, probably, 1 week training will do.!


Get down, hands on, manage, communicate, troubleshoot together, investigate, identify, resolving issues, seek for solution, and all the mentioned above is related to staff welfare not work pertaining issues.


Leaders are meant to keep the team happy and the team's duty is to resolved the jobs problem/issues. Now if the team is Not well taken care, the Leader's will need to do the staff's job. So, now I see the point why there are so many inefficient leaders around claiming that they have a lot of works to do. When they actually don't have to.


Leadership abilities comes naturally to some, but for many, it has to be Honed and Developed. I truly understand that Leaders are Made not Born! Leadership skills are acquired  over a period of time based on several factors:


Seven Leadership Skills:

1. Leaders come in all different shapes and sizes. It is interesting to study effective leaders. At face value they are all different. They all have developed their own style based on their own personality and what works for them. 

2. A true leader accepts responsibility. Everything from how they speak to how they act is part of being responsible. It is easy to follow them because you know where they are going and know they will lead you as well. 

3. Leaders work at being leaders. They are always improving their skills and learning from the situations they are in. They study people and have learned how to effectively interact with them to get what they want. 

4. Leadership starts at the top, but is best achieved when developing a team atmosphere. Leaders know they can do better when people are working together for one common goal. Sharing in leadership is part of this process. Making everyone accountable for what they do, but judging success on the overall efforts of everyone. 

5. Situations call for different types of leadership. A well-rounded leader is able to adapt to their surroundings and lead accordingly. Coaching a football team is an example of this. Sometimes the players need a kick in the rear and other times they need a pat on the back. 

6. Leaders are respected for what they have accomplished in the past. A real leader can speak from a position of practical experience and know they will be listened to because they speak from that vantage point. A respected leader is able to command more from his people than a leader who is not. 

7. Leaders seek opinions and compile ideas before forming a game plan. Good leaders know that they cannot come up with every idea that will work. By allowing input they are able to make a more responsible decision. 

Highlighted in blue, is my strong points for leadership. 

We all know from the beginning, the days when the Great Mohandas Gandhi quoted " I suppose leadership at one time meant Muscles; but today it means getting along with people" 

That's all for today....Cheers to all Leaders and future leaders.

To Help or To Spoil Children ~ Parenting 2011

Parenting has always been topics in recent years, looking at the figures of more children were spoiled than helped in a family.  In fact, many parents are out of control, allowing the kids to manipulate and take charge of the situation, simply by falling into the unreasonable sympathy shown by the kids. I would prefer to raise my kids to be more self reliant, independent, and self sustaining.

I am not a BIG FAN of parents who put the blame on the children for their slow progressive, non productive, spoiled lifestyle and dependent children. Why?

The reason is YOU, as YOU mean PARENTS. Now here are some of the Etiologies (the study of causation/origination):-

1. Failure of parents  to enforce consistent & appropriate-age limit freedom

      2. Parents shielding the child from normal everyday frustrations.

      3. Provision of excessive material gifts, even when the child has not behaved properly

      4. Improper role models provided by parents.

The etiologies, shows the SPOILED CHILD SYNDROME has been increasingly noticed in the population and many never realized the impact that causes to the community indirectly. In fact these kids will have a tough future and the future has been decided and molded by YOU for not restricting certain things based on their age limit. I realized one more thing is that, parents were more concern to have the kids cater their needs 

more than preparing them to face the real world.

It is very sad to look at some parents who have got no control of their children’s attitude and lifestyle. Watching them coming back home late at night when they are suppose to study/sleep. Watching them demand for things and living in their own world, pretty much ego-centric I would say.  

If these are not corrected now, then the funny world out there awaits for these spoiled brats so that others could fool them and benefit out of them.

I am not here to say to HATE your kids. Then again, how can you allow your kids to take charge of the situation and please them with all the materials /provision in the world not letting them feel what YOU as a parents going through to earn for living. 

I would say this to conclude my short article,“Never underestimate a parent's ability to mortify his child.” 

With Love,

Prakash Naidu 

Baby Reesheka Kaur Says.....

The month of March 2011, had the most beautiful compilation of amazing moments. The month, I celebrate, my wife's birthday, the month where we got registered/engage and one amazing soul brought to the world.

Reesheka Kaur, that's what we called her.......

Let me put myself into her shoes and tell a little bit of her stories....& here we go...

I swim, I float, I move, I play and its like a marathon for the past 9 months. Then finally, I crossed the finishing line on the 21st March 2011.

 I remember watching a man and a  lady feeling so excited for me, then I realize there are my parents. My concern at that time was to get more rest since I was floating all the time and now they want me to breathe the air but not liquid.

 So I kept myself silent and cries sometimes, to let my parents know that I'm there with them. Honestly, it is not easy to be an INFANT. Being a newborn for few hours causing me lot of problem.

Firstly, they don't get what I say ( crying), Secondly, I was forced to drink when I not hungry, Thirdly, there were too many people around me, I felt stuffy. I need some break after my long journey, can't these people understand me. Damn....they couldn't understand my language...I don't blame them....

 Well now, months passed by and I 'm almost 1 year's old. There are a lot of changes, I started to understand some sign language my mom and dad always  play with. I recognizes my own name.....I crawled, I started to walk....

 I like the when people buy me toys, colorful ones, dresses and I'm obsessed for hand bags.

 I remember these two couples, whom my dad & mom always with..I guess so called Bestie Friendie.

If I'm not mistaken thats Uncle Prakash & Aunty Kanchini. Pretty annoying thou seeing them quite often and my parents away with them often as well..Come on..of course I will get jealous....

Anyway its's ok, Uncle Prakash & Aunty Kanchini not that bad, coz they buy me stuff...like a lot of stuff....I have Patrick(the teddy bear) for me to hug & sleep, some weird toys and I remember Uncle Prakash mentioning that he will buy some kinda huge play ground thingy for me....Well lets wait and see....

I envy Aunty Kanchini very much, she has got some gorgeous handbags...I love the GUESS purple handbag...I tried to get into the bag one day, but failed coz my mom Ms.Karenjit Kaur spank me from the back...

I heard Uncle Prakash bought a new handbag for Aunty Kanchini...I hope the bag will land to my hand one day. Anybody knows the brand..??? Coz I heard from my daddy, Mr. Hayma Kumar it was a 'COACH' handbag.

I shall use my charm to get a handbag from Uncle Prakash one day...I know he loves me alot and I'm sure he will get me one....Not much...maybe for my first day of my school....

That's all for now peeps....21st March 2012 coming soon...Do not forget my Birthday people....

Love,

Baby Reesheka Kaur via Uncle's Prakash & Aunty Kanchini's Blog

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Bestie Friend

Kumar & Karen - I dedicate this small little stories on behalf of Reesheka....One day she also wanna know what all happen... So there is something for her to laugh one fine day....atleast she will be thinking how dumb Uncle Prakash is....the Aunty Kanchini will get all the attention.....

If Success Is A Game, These Are The Rules..

To start with, many years ago, reading is not my cup of coffee or I would rather say 'yucksss'. Nothing bothers me when it comes to books as I see that only as a piece of paper that people write and I read, then I sleep.

It all change when, there is this man whom I met presented me a book and told me," You have got to start somewhere, if it is not NOW maybe when you in the late 40's but I guess your too fragile then at that age".

I kept on asking myself, what is that man trying to say?  and I am only bloody 15 years old. damn it"  The book was kept beautifully in the shelves like how I kept the rest of my books. As months passed by and the book is getting golden in color and remain untouched.

One fine day, I met the same man again and this time he gave his hands for a manly handshake, whispered to my ears saying " Young man, I bet you have not read the book I've given you, I don't see any changes in you. So you have decided to be like this forever or let the time takes its slow ride to make you realize your own potential ? He gave me that smile, a very sinistic gesture.

Like always, I ignore such weird person but each time I passed by the shelves, something keeps on telling me to open the cover of the book at least and peep whats inside the SO CALLED book that the man dying wanting me to read.

After one year the book was kept hidden on the shelves, I decided to pick it and wipe the dust off the book cover. I read the title on the cover and it sound like this " If Success Is a Game, These Are The Rules" by Cherie Carter Scott, PhD. It took me almost 3 months to complete the whole book consisting of only 212 pages. Biggest ever achievement in my entire lifetime to complete something I would rather die doing.

Now the amazing part was, during the reading process, the first 14 pages took me 2 months to digest until one day, I decided to read the following page ( at page 15), the topic suddenly struck my mind and feelings all together. It sounded like this " Rule Two - Wanting Success Is The First Step Toward Attaining It" and there is a line from the topic that really made me to start thinking, it was this line:

  " Success is a process that begins from within. It starts as a glimmer of hope, then evolves into a thought that plants a seed of promise inside your soul. It is a journey whose initial step is paved with an inner stirring. Whatever your dream may be, the dream needs to be activated into a desire before you can make it happen. In other words, first you need to actively want success if you ever hope to attain it." ( Page 15)

What amused me is that, all this while I was dreaming but I did not make any action towards my goal thinking that,  it will come when it supposed to. Then, I continued reading till I completed the whole book within 3 - 4 weeks despite juggling my time for Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia examination back in year 2002.

I believe today, I'm groomed and be able to meet all types of people from different level / phase of life without having the 'Fear Factor'   strictly adhering to the principles that I personally created   'Be , Know , Do' all the time.

Criticism is part and parcel of life, without it, you will not know where you stand?, how to improve? and I take criticism as a personal challenge. Always favour the word Lesson instead of Failure.  One valuable lesson we all should understand, age is not a barrier or shall not be a wall to attain your dreams.

Doesn't really matter, what subject you study or mastered in? or , what job you are doing? or, which department you handle?,or which language your're good in? because the main concern here is,

are you doing it with full commitment.? or..
are expecting in return for your good deeds? or..
are you doing it for your own satisfaction or just to complete the task?

One good example, lets have a look at our very own former Prime Minister Tun Dr Mahathir bin Mohamad, was the fourth Prime Minister of Malaysia and the longest serving P.M (22 years). He is a qualified doctor by profession yet he still get involve into politics and tremendously given such a fantastic impact to our country developement. Which means, you do not have to study Economics, or Political Science or MBA to be a leader, all you need is a dream together with an action to attain your success.

Even at this bary time, I am proud with my achievements, achieving all the tiny bits of goals in short term plans and now I'm looking at it in a bigger picture, bigger goal have been achieved. I have plenty more goals to attain and I believe it is only the matter of time and luck. I'm blessed with wonderful people around me from my family especially my parents & kanchini,to my siblings and not to forget my working collegues and best friends.

I'm proud to be a Banker for a leading bank in Malaysia and I personally have achieved my parents dream to complete my education to obtain BSc Biomedicine and also Postgraduate in Medical Ultrasonography. Now its my turn to seek for my own goals.

For now...this is all I have to share with you guys.

Remember this;  "There is no education like adversity"

Regards,
Prakash Naidu

Our 1st year Anniversary- 5th Dec 2010- Love, Love and All Love

Surprise surprise!! Guess whose blogging.. Its the great Kanchini!... By now, most of you would know how me and Prakash got together.. Please allow me to pen down a little bit bout my soul and my anniversary and all of you are welcomed to drop a comment.

On the 5th of December 2009 is the first time I met Prakash after so many years. I was like 'DAMN, HE'S HOT' when I saw him. It has now been exactly one year since I say those sentence and I wouldn't change even one letter today.

As to celebrate our anniversary, my darling took me out to The Curve, the same place for our first date. Since, the choice of restaurant was left to me, I chose Italiannese. He had Sangria and I had white wine. Main course was delicious pizza with a unpronounceable Italian name (It was with chicken, green pepper and some other stuff). I felt for a moment like an Italian actress out on a romantic date. We both had the chance to walk down the memory lane and not to mention laughed a lot.

We than walked to Ikano and I got my gift, two pairs of shoes (Girls, don't be jealous :)). All of a sudden, Prakash was just to excited with Cold Storage (I have no idea why) and we ended up buying a tub of chocolate ice-cream for supper. We walked around at Curve a bit, looked at engagement rings and just chillex at Starbucks for a bit.

And that's just not the end yet. We than hit back to Subang Parade Parkson to get perfumes courtesy of my parents. We each got our CK but we were even more excited with the extra gift we got which was tiny balls of magnets that can be structured in different shapes. I shall ask Prakash to post picture of it for you guys to get the idea as why were excited and not think that we are insane :).

At this moment, we are at home enjoying our ice-creams and watching movies and all I can think is that I am the luckiest gal to be with the most amazing guy. Well, yes we do have have fights (FYI, I always punch him and he always lose) and arguments but that is part and parcel of our lives. We believe being there for each other, discussing, understand each others moods, arguments, no barriers and making jokes keeps us together. Not forgetting you have to make a fool out of yourself sometimes as well. I did a Tai-chi + wu chu acrobat at 3 am in the morning for no reason. He sings the girl version of a song (sounds gay by the way) sometimes or dances in the car (you will be surprised).

For all couples out there, I am no professional PHD holder in love but I do know I am in love and what I have just wrote above is a secret for true love.

As for you my darling soulmate, Prakash, without you I would be simply lost. Thank you for for all the amazing moments.

As quoted by William Shakespeare;

Doubt thou the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love.

 -KANCHINI-

Simply Friendship

When I first met Kumar at workplace I addressed him as 'Anne' knowing that he was my senior. The exact word from his mouth was ' Hey don't call me anne la, I am about you age only. Call me bro'. I guess he said that since Bro sounds more standard/cool than anne.

Since than, whenever we have the chance to be in the same shift, we chat as we do our work (Mind you, We do our work!!!!). As the days and months pass by, we were like 'Wow, Dude, we are like 'sama kepala la'. We discovered friendship during our learning process. He was very generous when it comes to teaching/correcting me in regards to work. I on the other hand, shares my self development ideas to him.

I and Kanchini had the chance to be there on his special day from begining till the end. That 's the first time we met Karen. After their honeymoon, I met the newly-wed couples again. Karen is as funny as Kumar. I remember saying this to me, 'Prakash, I don't how to cook yet. Come next year I will cook for you ok'.

We than started to hang out as couples. I was glad that Kanchini and Karen could get along but I did not see what they could do together. They were bullying me and Kumar to the max!!! The men had no choice but to shut our mouth and 'anguk-anguk' kepala only (What a shame!).

A friend in need is a friend indeed and that's how I describe Kumar. He has been there when I need a favour. Thanx dude (Manly handshake).Not to forget, a HUGE THANKS to Karen for showing care and was there from time to time for Kanchini when she was admitted.

Glad that the year 2010 ended with a new brotherhood friendship.

Prakash Naidu & Kanchini Sekaran In Love

Love Exist and that is why we have decided to present this blog on our love story to you all out there. Don't ever lose hope or ever think that it happens only in fairytale stories. Let this story be an inspiration to all that is already in love, looking for love as well as to the ones who hates love :) Happy reading.

Kanchini and I met via Facebook & Instant messenger back in 2009. We were friends for a great few months before we became a couple back in early December 2009. We finally met in person on the 5th December 2009 after 4 years of her student life back in London, UK. It is the most remarkable and historical date for the both of us.

Neither of us was expecting to fall in love online, but yet here we are telling you our story.

This is the story of our first meeting.

Love rocks people....

“It was a beautiful morning of November 13th, I got the news that she's (Kanchini) back to Malaysia after months of Facebook-ing & IM's. The moment that, I have waited for months has arrived. Those were the days where every minutes feels like an hour, every hour feels like a day, every day feels like forever...We decided to meet & I traveled 320km just to have a special day out with her. I got lost immediately.

Finally when I reached her place, in the middle of the road was her dad in shorts, pasted with the look that says ' Is this the dude?'. My heart almost came out through my mouth. I had to swallow it back to show my macho-ness and asked her dad permission to take her out. Her family spoke something in Telugu which sounded like they gonna bash me up any minute. Finally with a smile from her parents I manage to steal her away for the day.

The two of us immediately talk all kind of stories without a pinch of awkwardness. We went to the Curve and she was so 'jakon' since she has never been there. She can claims KL as her first boyfriend when she hasn't even been to the Curve. Every building she saw she was just jumping with exciting. I wonder, is she from UK or Ulu Kelang. Opps, shoes gonna fly later. hehe..

Well, later in the evening I took her to Al-Andalus. God, this woman can really talk. She was on an on with stories and I was shaking inside. Wonder why people? Coz I have a plan. I took her there and we talk more and finally I took her to lamp post and ask her to close her eyes. She was nervous but eventually she followed my instruction. I took out a tiny box and asked her to be my girlfriend. This time not only my heart wanted to come out but my intestines as well was threatening to do so... She must have thought of the entire place I chose a lamp pose.

She was shocked and could not say a word. After a couple of torturous minutes she said she has to think. I was just relieved as if I completed my Life's toughest exam not bothered whether I failed or passed. I took her back home and again there was no awkwardness. I felt very sad that I have to go back but I did not have any chose.

Exactly on the 5th of December she agreed to be my girlfriend. Yahoo!!! Life could not be sweeter after that. Till date we love each other without expectation

Moments in the Garden of Serenity

captured by: Mahgesh Raao

13 OCTOBER 2010, the date when Canon EOS 550D was introduced into my life. As a gift or I would say a token on my precious day. The most remarkable present I've ever received and I wish to thank my future in-laws Mr & Mrs Sekaran and not to forget Ms. Kanchini, the most loving daughter, whom,I claimed the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. The reason behind the touch of photography & blog is due to be credited to my beloved partner,Ms. Kanchini.

Captured by: Prakash Naidu  (Image: Ms.Kanchini)

This girl has made a tremendous fantabulous changes in my life, namely from love to an endless love. Every happy couples and successful partners have words about their love life and I have mine about her.

" The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it.  You and you alone make me feel that I am alive.  Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough. "


She is my inspiration and this is the start of my blog.....